Careless relative caused damage to the ornate marker honoring girl who died at 16, and now a professional will be needed to make it right.

My problem is, one family member opens cards that have been left there for my daughter, and puts all sorts of cheap decorations around her grave. Recently, they put decorations directly on her gravestone which left large stains. We are now left searching for a professional to remove them, or her stone will need to be replaced.

Someone recently left decorations on my daughter's grave that stained her headstone. I was beside myself. Would it be wrong to set rules on what people can leave when visiting my daughter? Can I tell them to stay away?